planning life

Analysis Paralysis

Posted by on Mar 21, 2013 in goals, planning life | 0 comments

So, now that I’ve gone beyond the talk stage and actually pressed the publish button for the first time yesterday, there’s no turning back. I’m committed. I’ve finally gotten past planning and am moving forward. Waiting for take-off has been draining. Plagued by procrastination, which is only the desire to have everything done perfectly, I excused my inertia by smugly sitting in Quadrant Two, thinking that was the better part. I do thank Stephen Covey, author of “Seven Habits of Highly Successful People” and “First Things First”, for clearly and rightly justifying the need to spend time planning and doing other reflective activities. And of all of them, there is none more essential than taking time to pray and seek direction from the One who knows and loves me and knows all the circumstances concerning me. Since He had me in mind before the beginning of time, there isn’t anything about me that will shock Him. He knows my dilemmas that keep my wheels spinning. He’s been there many times to push me out of the ruts I create for myself. Is He frustrated with me? Maybe, but not any more than I am. Well, I’m on the launch pad now and I’ve started the engines. It’s an exhilarating feeling…scary too. I’ve heard it and so have you: Do what you fear and it will lose its power over you. The perfection plague…how it paralyzes! Webmaster Webster tells me that a blog space is the place to be imperfect. Why is that? Doing the fearful? Exposing ourselves to hostility perhaps, or at the least, criticism. What a great exercise! Yes, for whatever reason, “sometimes I sits and thinks and sometimes I just sits” for more time than I want to admit. I’m finally going beyond planning. Look out...

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A Little Bit of Christmas in July

Posted by on Aug 1, 2011 in planning life | 0 comments

A Little Bit of Christmas in July

For me and mine, July seems to be the busiest month of the year, almost outweighing the November to January span of time.   Natch, there’s the Fourth’s festivities, and on its heels is Baba’s birthday, followed by other anniversaries and birthdays galore, capping the month off with a info-ed-cation (information/education/vacation) in hot hot hot AZ. The highlight, however, is Baba’s birthday party.   This year it was in hot hot hot Hotlanta, GA, so that friends and fam could easily land at Hartsfield International Airport and catch a cab to the hotel where we all lived, ate, and visited for several days.  For those fam members living on the various US coasts, it was an easy commute compared to landing and then driving 2 hours to her place. Baba was turning 98.  (That means she’s lived 98 years, I keep telling myself.)  Baba, who just stopped driving about three years ago. Baba, who reupholstered a sofa and made lined drapes at the age of 92.  There’s a whole lot to say about her.  The best being that she’s a bright, sociable friend, a great listener, and a kind and patient mother and grandmother.  (She’s had lots of opportunity to demonstrate that, having had nine children, 21 grandkids, and an every increasing number of great-grandkids.) She’s also a tenacious card player.  With the ride from one of her younger friends, she goes to the senior center at least three times a week for canasta and other games I don’t understand. She’s as independent about living her life as anyone can be. Her card playing inspired her family to have a special cane made for her.  It was beautifully hand carved with hearts, clubs, diamonds, and spades grooved in, as well as a exquisitely detailed Queen of Hearts etched into the handle. She’s proudly taken it to her card games ever since. We know she may not use it for long.  We know she may be gone by next year.  She’s so strong that she could live another 3 or 4 years, but then, we never know when any of us will go.  Yet that would not concern anyone who’s made arrangements for their future, and I’m not talking about “final arrangements”, but rather  Beyond Planning. Having known several people who lived past 100, I’ve learned that it’s not such an exciting experience.  So many are limited by sight, hearing, and mobility issues.  I guess that’s why Baba has always taken great care of herself, challenging her brain as well as her physical strength and wellness.  She’s been doing prevention and maintenance for years, and it shows. Her birthday this year may be her last, but she experienced a joyful reunion with her grandkids and kids, as well as literally walked away with an emblem of her independence. The more I reflect on this season, the phrase “Christmas in July” pops up.  There were quite a few similarities and some striking differences as well.  This gives me an idea for a December note. Until then, celebrate today, celebrate the opportunity you have to do some “beyond planning” , and like Baba, play the hand you’re dealt while you can.        ...

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